The journey of my life has taken a left turn, and out of my control. I needed to find myself and a direction for my life. I started to look at who I am and where my future will lead me.
Have you ever felt that way?
My name is Sandy Mangis. I grew up on a farm in a small town of Washington State, USA.
After college I came home and married that annoying boy from High School (He grew up). I have two wonderful kids, now both through college and on their own. I’ve been a career mom from the beginning.
With the milestone of turning 50, my husband was diagnosed with cancer. Wow, having to deal with this new challenge, my career, schedules, kids, aging parents, and having any sort of life, I needed something to hold it all together. I was feeling lost and following the unknown was even worse.
I had decisions to make!
My life turning left was showing me that I needed to learn new things. How to be a caregiver for a loved one and how to do things on my own. In our five-year struggle with cancer we have learned a lot. We learned how to live as though life is on hold. Your goals turn into short-term, so you make the most of it. It woke us both up. You need to always be prepared for change and have a plan.
I started to read and dove into research to stay busy, especially on days when you were at Chemo treatments or hospital visits. Mindset and personal development had more meaning. I had to figure out how to keep going with a smile on my face. People were depending on me.
All I ever really wanted to do was to be a wife and a mother. The career came because of the day and age we live in. It was one that needed a two-income household. We wanted the best for our kids and we did all we could to give them that. We were at every event, every sport, going non-stop until our kids grew up. We always went camping, fishing and hiking together, but as my husband go weaker, we needed to change. “Now what?”
We had to come with terms with our schedules, our future, our budget, our daughter wanting her dad to walk her down the aisle. Our son getting married, and just growing old together. We found that the hardest thing you must do in life is plan your own funeral.
What I have learned to do now is to teach others how to have a positive mindset and smile through any adversity they might come across. I strive to help them find their own way and learn to cope with the things they need to get done.
You start to become aware of what you are capable of doing and allow yourself to go on. Bringing in that fighting spirit to deal with the challenges that come along. You don’t need to be stuck and lost. There is hope and encouragement to be a conscious caregiver, wife, mother or child.
I found the answer I was looking for, the one that will ease my life. One that gives vision to change and one that will let me have control with purpose and meaning. I love to be in the outdoors and enjoy what nature has for us. Giving me a challenge is just like a puzzle and I could spend hours finding that last and final piece.
I love inspirational quotes that help others find a little peace in this crazy world. Finding a way for me to keep going when more changes come is an adventure in its own.
“Life isn’t about finding yourself, Life is about CREATING yourself”
Are you feeling the stress and pain of taking care of a loved one and striving for the unknown? If you are always dreaming of being somewhere else and wanting it bad enough to make the change, come and chat with me.
The Mindset Muse Smiling Through Adversity