Left Out for Fear You Are Too Busy
Are you struggling with others by passing you or leaving you out of things? Left Out for Fear You Are Too Busy? Their excuse is “Don’t want to bother you with everything you’re going through”!
How does that make you feel and what can you do about it? I had that question brought to me and I had it happen also. As caregivers we do have a lot on our plate, but we manage to get it all done and have a life too. To turn that around, I had many ask me how I could keep smiling with all that I have going on.
My answer: “It is a choice”.
Are You Too Busy for Others?
I want to share with you, ways to show that you have time for others in your schedule and ways to answer them when they ask if you are busy.
Your close friends are going to see what you have on your plate, but you can give them reasons to include you. Come up with variations of these and see how it works. In other words, have some fun.
>> “I’m have a productive day”! this implies you have a lot going on, but you are handling it well. Then ask them if they need something.
>> “I’m working on X and ….” This lets them feel included, even though you may be overwhelmed and trying to figure out how you will get it all done. Not showing that you don’t have time for them.
>> “I’m a little overloaded right now but can see the light in X amount of time”. Giving them a time frame will open the door for them to check up on you later.
>> I’ve got a lot to do, but I am extremely excited.” When you say that you get a surge of energy. You might not be excited about it, but with this energy you can get more done. Or they will ask what you are doing and how they can help.
>> “I’m stressed” Let them know you need a break.
Did you start to see a pattern? These answers will include the other ones who are asking. You didn’t say you were busy and push them away. For the most part, people like to be included, especially you, so by turning it around it will get the conversation rolling in a different direction.
Left Out for Fear You are Busy
If others ask, tell them the truth, even if they don’t want to hear it. A true friend will want to be there for you and know they can include you. Besides, they did ask.
That reminds me of an old saying that is still true today “Ask a busy person to do something and it will get done”. By not letting others think you are busy will turn the tables and you will not be passed by or left out again.
When hardship, sickness and pain takes your life to the left, there is a way to keep smiling. Hi, my name is Sandy and I am “The Mindset Muse”
I help others who have been forced into being a caregiver, juggling emotions, career, family, schedules and struggle keeping it all together to find their way through.
Look around and see how I can help you!